May 24, 2012
"This is a serious problem. These Friday dinners are the only proper food that child eats all week." -Emily Gilmore
"Let's buy this one."
"I don't know if I like this one."
"You just said you liked it."
"Yes I am aware of what I just said, but now I am not so sure. Can we go to just one more store? Just one?"
I am the type of person who hyperventilates at the thought of big purchase. If I am going to drop some serious money on something I want to make sure its perfect, that it is everything that I want, and that I am getting the best deal possible.
Hence, why we have been living with an empty dining room for the last two years.
For Dan, I am sure that it was some level of avoidance. He knew this was going to be a long, annoying process. That he would be forced to sit on various styles of hard chairs while being repeatedly asked:
"Is this comfortable to you?"
"Do you think this is too big?"
"Will it match our other furniture?"
But recently, after three years of living in Dallas, my family came to visit and we decided it was time to pull the trigger. Here is what we wanted: A long table, wood, with an insert, and room for up to eight people. Also? We want this table to last. I don't want to be dining room table shopping in another five or even FIFTEEN years. So this was a big life investment.
I won't bore you with a dramatic(ly boring) account of the Day of our Life We Lost To Dining Room Table Shopping, but I will say that when buying a dining room table it is worth doing your homework. We found the quality and the price ranged significantly at every store. Just when we thought we were going to give up, we popped into "one last store" and found: IT.
Here's a fun fact for you. Did you know that once mango trees stop producing fruit, they live for two years before they die? Therefore, buying furniture made of mango trees is very environmentally friendly. Which I wouldn't say sold me on the table, but certainly gave me the little push I needed.
We had to wait a week for it to be delivered and I daresay it felt like adult Christmas. I mean, it's pretty fun buying adult furniture.
That evening we sat at either end of the table and I forced Dan to reenact a scene for Gilmore Girls wherein I was Emily and he was Richard and we talked about his stocks and my Daughters of the American Revolution luncheon. The whole thing was hilarious, especially since we were eating leftover tacos. Emily would so.not.approve.
Today is our 3 year wedding anniversary. We decided that instead of going out to a fancy dinner, that we would eat dinner at home on the new dining room table and give it a proper "breaking in." The decision is less about the table itself, and more about the symbolism. When we first got married, we sold all our stuff that wouldn't fit in a U-Haul and drove down to Texas. Slowly but surely, we have been building our life together from scratch. Replacing old furniture, getting new furniture, developing comfortable routines, and building new memories.
I couldn't ask for a better partner or somebody I would rather build a life with - and I can't wait to see what memories we create around this table:
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